we are moving all of our blogs over from Heal Artfully in order to solidify our mission in one place. This was originally published in January 2011.
Dougie began conversing with us when he was four. Before that, he really only used scripted or repetitive language. I used to wonder if he was getting it.. if he was absorbing the true meaning of the words we said to him. Of course, as mothers we learn to read the signals in their energy and body language — and we certainly often feel that they “get it.” But, who doesn’t want proof? Our proof began to appear when we got Dougie some dolls and stuffed animals and observed how he played with them. We’d see him cuddling, feeding, changing diapers, putting them to sleep — in his own way. So we played off this and began staging puppet shows and made up stories that re-iterated what we thought were important lessons. When Dougie started talking, he was so excited and proud of himself (and still is) that he rarely stops talking. He has so much to say, and every day he shows us that he is fully aware. He even brings up moments from the past. So, if you ever have doubt that your child understands you — keep talking and playing with them. Keep parenting at your best. Keep telling them that you know they get it and you understand them. Teach them everything you would teach a child who gave you clear signals of their understanding. They not only get it.. but they will use it. These minds are gorgeous minds and love knowledge. Fill them up with all the stories in your head, mamas and dads. One day, you will be in awe as those very stories are relayed back to you in complete awareness. Rock On! You can do this! Gina