I have been thinking about what creates vindictive thoughts and revenge lately, because I was recently accused of having them. It all seems like a truly sad venture to have your heart set on hurting another person. I understand that wanting to get even with someone is a human emotion, but to what end? I am not telling you to let people slap you around, and at the same time I am not the person to say to get your revenge. So, where is the middle ground?
Recently I had a landlord in my life who was trying to goad me into a confrontation with her. Every day I continued my personal work and left her alone, yet the situation continued to grow. I was told that I was a very negative person with some master plan to only bring pain to others. These comments didn’t hurt me because I knew the truth, but then she crossed my fine line, which was to attempt her tactics on my wife. It was hard for me to see the positive side in this anymore.
The night before this happened, Gina and I were on the beach and we did a Reiki Healing Attunement on the issue. In retrospect, it makes perfect sense that this woman would go after Gina the next morning, as we needed something to open up my eyes. We immediately packed up our belongings, requested a refund (which we only got some of) and left to find a much better place. Now, instead of living with bugs coming out of our faucets and the smell of drugs every day, we are staying in a very clean and beautiful hotel right on the ocean. A king-size bed with air conditioning after a long stay in the jungle is magical.
If someone is trying to hurt you, then ask yourself why. Maybe you have something that they don’t and they are mad at you for it. Maybe that person has serious problems of their own to deal with and they find it comforting to take it out on you. Most arguments that I run into turn out to be big misunderstandings. One person believes that the other is trying to harm them for some silly reason and the other thinks that person is just evil.
I attracted my situation. It’s hard for me to admit. I have had an aggressive past that taught me a great deal about how to treat and deal with others. I am not the dog that barks at the mailman. I like to leave people to their own growth. In not participating in the repeated attacks of having my utilities randomly shut off or crazy emails about my character, I helped increase her anger. It wasn’t my goal. I was simply trying to not involve myself deeper into a bad relationship.
When you get to the core of people you remember that we are all children. We are all uniquely and divinely placed here as individuals on our paths. We might pick up ideas about life and handling conflicts from media and society, but in the end we are all simply little creatures running around learning together. We are all weird. You’re weird and I’m weird. The goal is not to overcome your weirdness, but to grow with it and understand the real you and your part in this collective reality.
When you are seeking revenge on another you must remember that each person is simply another organism on the planet trying to make it their way. Hurting them in any fashion only hurts you. You cannot wholly gain from hurting another. You might feel positive about it for a while, but that is the same high that you can get from drugs. It is your momentary fix. Instead of putting that energy into destruction, try spending it on bettering yourself. Go to yoga, seek out your promotion, elevate the real you.
My upbringing raised me to attack all situations. I was always looking for an edge on an opponent. I must say though that all of my dueling never equalled one beautiful day on the beach with my family. I can’t recollect a successful fight that felt as good as making my way in the world. I learned on my own that my path to true happiness was through finding the bright side in my life and putting all of my energy towards it.
The truth is that the only way to truly feel good is to work on you, not on someone else. Live YOUR life for YOU. Don’t worry about others. Focus on you. I am not saying to be selfish or uncaring. It’s truly quite to the opposite. What I am saying is to be the beacon of honesty, truth and success that you wish for everyone else. The best way to help others is to show them through your example. You don’t need to harm anyone, just live the life of light that you were meant to. Be free!